自私

人,都是自私的。

事不关己时就什么都没问题,小事一桩。一旦关连到自己,就呼呼喝喝的,大肆喧闹。

难为别人,就为了自己方便。

怪罪他人,好让自己舒服些。

物,是死的。

人,是活的。

这样行不通,就不能自己想办法吗?!为何要全世界都配合你好方便你办事?!

别人做不到,就不能自己安排吗?!为何要怪罪别人好让自己有台阶下?!

怪了别人,又怎样???还不是要自己想办法吗???!!!

有那样的闲工夫去管别人,为何就不能管好自己?

有嘴巴说别人,就没嘴巴说自己!

别人不能做,你自己就能做!!!

别人不能说,你自己就能说!!!

全都是别人的错,你自己就没错???!!!

想想吧!你没错的话别人干嘛会对你生气!

你若是真那么好,根本就不需要去责怪别人。

你若真是那么好,早就想办法解决事情了。

你没那么好!少装好人了!

自私鬼。

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Disappearance

Ermm…… In case you’re wondering (and if you care), I’m still alive and kicking the ass of life. :D

I am SO VERY sorry for not updating my blog for such a long time. Please forgive this busy lady, will ya?

Work is hectic! Yes, hectic. This is the first time I used hectic to describe my work. With the new “thing” in the office, I am cracking my head in so many ways to come up with the best system. Yeah, if you think HR is as easy as payroll processing and paperwork only, you are more than welcome to have my job. I am the change agent, policy maker, policy custodian, “police”, counsellor, adviser, manager, decision maker, planner, organiser, problem solver…… Payroll takes only 1% of my time. What am I doing the rest of the time? Well, I can’t explain everything to you. No one would understand how HR works unless you are doing it. Really, you have not a clue.

Been to a 3-day accreditation workshop last week, so there’s 3 working days lost. Went to a 2-day HR networking event this week, another 2 days gone. All this does not help with the piling workload. After the HR event yesterday, my brain felt like it was going to explode. Too much information going on in there, I do not have the time to digest.

I have too many work issues to think, my brain does not even have the 1% space for other stuff. My life for the past 3 weeks – eat, work, sleep. Oh yes, I have 1 hour of drama-time from Monday to Thursday, that is one drama that I would not miss. Seriously, I’m too tired to do anything.

My head still feels groggy with all the information and knowledge. I need to “pour” some of them out but I just do not have the time, damn it. There are deadlines which are long past the due and I still can’t deliver. :( How I wish I could have someone who is capable enough to take some load off of me.

Well, I hate to say this, but I may not be able to blog as much as I want to in the future. Until I could clear some of the urgent tasks out of the way, I am really sorry for the emptiness here.

Sigh…… My brain and creativity are drained at work…… :(

Occupied

This post is backdated to 20th January 2012. I was writing in the evening and Andrew came to pick me up, didn’t get to finish and post it up.

24 hours a day and 7 days a week is not enough!

I’ve been working like a mad-dog for the past 2 weeks. Okay, I don’t know why I said “work like a mad-dog”, I certainly don’t bark crazily at people. Just…… Argh…… Damn, bloody, freaking busy that is……

Got so upset and angry with the house renovation stuff last Friday. (I’ll dedicate a post to this later on, please bear with me for the time being.)

My work is pouring in dinosaurs and the workload is increasing everyday. No kidding! I always dislike the beginning of the year, it’s my peak season of a year. Appraisals, increments, bonuses, organising Chinese New Year celebrations, HR plans, tax submission, EA forms, reconcile past year payroll, drafting letters and memos for new policies…… Geez!!! I can still go on. It’s worse when my colleague is on lllooonnnngggg MC. Can’t blame her, she didn’t wish for it either. But now I have to do everything and I only have 2 hands and one brain.

The nearing CNY is not helping. Leave me with little of time to prepare, both at work and home.

Today is my last day at work before the Chinese New Year break, right now at 8pm, I am still in the office. Trying to work something out, in the mean time, stealing some time to write this blog post.

不满

不满
太多了

每一字
每一句
听不下去

诸多道理
变成了借口

不悦
太久了

每一分
每一秒
苦忍下去

太多承诺
都成了泡影

不满
满满充斥了一颗心

欠缺的勇气
无以追寻

好想说
靠!老板,我不爽!!!

I Am Strict

It is a commonly known fact that, women make fussy bosses. If you do not agree with it, raise your hand please! *Ashley’s raising her hand up high and straight.*

As a woman myself, a working woman, I am only fussy when someone does not follow my instructions. I am very lenient on mistakes. You can make mistake, I have all the rights to correct your mistake and you have all the rights to know about it so that you get to learn from it. We all learn from mistakes, don’t we? However, repeating the same mistake over and over again even after consultation and chances are given, is just something I could not bring myself to condone.

I’ll give you clear instructions of how to do one thing, the way I want it to be and by when I want it. You don’t understand it, you’d better ask. I can take all the time in the world to explain to you and I don’t mind questions. However, once you tell me you understand and OK, I’ll take it as you really understand. Mistake is allowed. When I receive the result in a way different than how I wanted it, be prepared to redo it. You don’t argue with me that it is the CORRECT way or you think it is the BEST way. I want it MY way. You want me to follow your way, fine, discuss it with me before you give me the end result.

A mistake done is a mistake alright. Again, you don’t go around the bush only to tell me you assumed I wanted it that way. I wanted A, you gave me B. That is wrong. Admit the mistake, apologise, redo it and I’ll be happy to let you move on. Try arguing with me it is correct and not admitting your mistake, get ready to face some “cold hard facts” from me. I can be very blunt to point out your mistake and carelessness if you try to be sneaky.

I’ve told you it was wrong, but you continue to do it your way. I’ll tell you again that it is wrong. Continuously doing the same thing wrong, it only shows that you have got a strong head to listen to me. Why is following exactly what I said so difficult? It’s just a simple “go get someone here” could turn out to be total frustration. You don’t tell me “someone is busy and I don’t want to disturb him”. I told you to get that someone and you’d better get that someone. If you couldn’t, at least tell me you couldn’t instead of keeping quiet and let me wait.

Am I strict and fussy? Look, this is a junior staff that I am dealing with. Not much of “brains” required here, only as simple and easy as following exactly what I say. If there is some brain-work required, I’d be happy to let you work on your own and show me ONLY the result, I don’t care the means!

Honestly, I don’t usually care HOW you do it, so long as you could give me what I want, a little bit of mistake is forgivable. However, if you simply just can’t do it and give me rubbish whilst you promised me that you could do it, I’m just gonna come down hard on you.

I don’t usually scold people at work. I talk sense to people I work with and I explain. There’s no need to scold people.

I just lost my cool and calm when it comes to this particular person that does not even listen to what I say, always claim that “it is correct” when it is wrong, she did it but she said she did not, she didn’t do it but she said she did, constantly showing a gloomy face when she’s at the front desk, never greets any of the bosses who come in…… Gosh, I could just go on and on. Sigh.

The only thing that gets on my nerves is she would tell me with a straight face that “it is correct” when she did wrong and went all the way to explain that it is CORRECT when it is WRONG! When I showed her the fact that it is wrong, she gave me the silent treatment. What the……

No…… I insist, that I am not a fussy boss. Strict, yes when it comes to work. I am very approachable, but it doesn’t mean that you can play a fool with me on your work. Period!

Interviews #2

Last year, this time, I wrote about interviews that I had to go through. No, not me going for interviews. I, the HR person, has to interview potential candidates.

The jokes arise from interviews, are always new. I am not surprised to see the quality of fresh graduates and young job-seekers has dropped so much. You wouldn’t believe me if you weren’t in the field of HR. A lot of you would be saying it’s easy for the companies right now to hire, so many unemployed and young job-seekers nowadays. However, as an employer, I must tell you it is not easy to find a suitable one. It is even more difficult to find one with the right attitude. Sometimes, it isn’t the experience and qualifications that matter, it is the attitude. You can have 10 years of working experience and a double degree, but your attitude stinks and you think the world is lucky to have you and everyone should be listening to you including your potential employer. Sorry to say, no employer appreciates that kind of attitude. You may then consider to stay with your current employer for ever.

I was interviewing candidates for the position of Receptionist cum Admin Assistant. I think almost everyone would think that it is a piece of cake to interview for receptionist. You would be surprised. From the national newspaper advertisement, I only received 6 applications. 6!!! I was so sad. Out of this 6, 5 were shortlisted for an interview. Out of the 5 I called, only 3 showed genuine interest, the other 2 were more like saying yes just to entertain me.

Arranged for 5 interviews, 4 came, 1 failed to come and did not even bother to call to inform me. I took the effort to call, no answer.

Out of the 4 I interviewed, or I should say 3, I am so fortunate that 3 of them are good. Now, let me tell you the story of this candidate who came but not interviewed.

I had 3 interviews that morning, 10am, 11am and 12pm. My boss had an interview at 10am too and he insisted me to go in with him at 10am. So, I couldn’t interview the first girl at 10am and the rest of the scheduled interviews were pushed to a later time. There was this candidate, Ms. T, her interview was at 11am. When I came out from the interview with my boss, it was already 11.15am. I asked Ms. T if she were rushing somewhere and if she could wait for me. She told me she wasn’t going anywhere and she would wait. Then, I went ahead with the first girl, an Indian girl. By the time I was done with the Indian girl, Ms. T was gone! I was surprised, but I didn’t think much of it and went on with the third interview.

After I finished all the interviews, my colleague then told me, around 11.45am Ms. T informed her to tell me that she wanted to leave and couldn’t wait. I was like, “huh? I thought I’ve asked her if she could wait and why didn’t she tell me that earlier?” Well, perhaps she had something urgent and that’s it, I didn’t take it seriously and thought maybe Ms. T would call me later for another interview.

Later that evening, I received an email from Ms. T. I thought she emailed to ask if I could arrange another interview with her. When I open the email and read, my jaw dropped open for as long as forever!

This is what she wrote to me. (Click on the image for larger view)

I did not amend or change any of the content of the email above except I deleted the email address and name. See, I still want to protect her! Hahahaha. Sorry to say that there were so many grammatical and spelling errors in the email.

I was so uncomfortable after reading that email with those untrue accusations and exclamation marks!

I called and asked her.

Me: I have just received your email Ms. T. This morning, did I not ask you if you could wait?
Ms. T: Yes, you got. *Obviously her English isn’t good and I wonder if she was the one who wrote me that email*
Me: Then why did you send me this kind of email accusing me that I did not even “entertain” you?
Ms. T: I don’t know need to wait so long.
Me: If you couldn’t wait at all, you should have told me in the first place. And did you know that the interview with that Indian girl was before you? I had an interview schedule to follow, not on the first come first serve basis.
Ms. T: I don’t know.
Me: Exactly. You shouldn’t write me that kind of email when you don’t know the reason behind. And you said I don’t respect you, if I don’t respect you, I would not be the one interviewing you. Ms. T, you come for an interview and you have to wait if you have to wait. If you could not wait, you have to tell the interviewer that you could not wait and maybe come back at a later time. Waiting during an interview is very common and I personally have waited 3 hours for a job interview! So yes, I know how it felt but I don’t go around sending email like this to people! *Obviously I was trying to give her a piece of my mind.*
Ms. T: Never mind lah, never mind lah…… I… I… *I guess she was trying to say never mind and she doesn’t want to come for an interview anymore.*
Me: You don’t mind, I mind. *Hoping that she could get the signal and apologise. Duh!* I’m teaching you one thing here Ms. T and you have to remember it. You DO NOT write this kind of email to your potential employer, NEVER! Okay?
Ms. T: Ok ok ok……………….. *The sorry I was waiting for never came.*
Me: Bye.

I had to clarify with her instead of keeping quiet and silence can sometimes be seen as admission. A day later, my MD saw me and told me, “the chinese girl who came for interview on Monday, she doesn’t seem mentally stable, don’t get her”. Hahahahahahahaha…… I guess MD must have seen something while she was waiting at the reception area. I did not bother to ask him further then.

Now you know working in HR is not as easy and simple as you think. Even the candidates could give hell lot of trouble for you to handle.

Youngsters nowadays always complain that the employers couldn’t pay what they are asking. I say, please have a look at yourselves. Degree-holder with 2 years experience, asking for RM3500 to RM4000. You tell me, can you contribute the same amount to the employer? When they’re asked to work late, they whine about the employers mistreat them, paying them peanuts and yet wanting them to work extra. You tell me, you give a monkey peanut and did you not expect it to at least play some trick to amuse you? They often said the employers do not appreciate and reward their good performance and they’re constantly looking for one that does. Again, did they ever appreciate that the employer offered them a job?

Sigh. When can we get some good attitude employees??????????

长大了,还是老了?

之前PO过,微笑是最好的掩饰。一个微笑,把所有的辛酸、委屈、不甘、泪水,都给藏了起来。没人看得见、没人猜得透,那微笑底下,究竟是什么。

有时,觉得自己好虚伪。明明就不喜欢,却得戴着面具对人微笑。有时虚伪得连自己都无法忍受,没办法相信自己竟可以如此这般的造假。觉得可笑,可有时也觉得悲哀。

最近,有个人对我说,“某某某说你最近变得好好噢。” 我先是大笑一场,差点连刚喝下去的水都给吐了出来。那位某某某,可是我最不喜欢的人。我竟可虚伪得连她都觉得我变更好了,我的‘功力’可说是如火纯青了吧!爸爸则说,“大汉了(福建话)”。

长大了,想法改变了,自然也就不再那么计较了。委屈不甘,工作还是得做。与其做的如此不快乐,倒不如开开心心敞开胸怀把它做了。别人开心,自己也不必烦躁。就这样,人家以为我变好了。我没变,只是想法变了。看开了。

我上司曾经和我说,“你不必和你的敌人作朋友,但是你必须学会和你的敌人合作。” 看来我是做到了。

虚伪?是的,可是我们有谁不是呢?为了生存,虚伪是必须的。别告诉我你不曾虚伪假装过,我不信,也没人会信。

烦恼会因年龄的增长而慢慢增加。我说,因为年龄的增长和经验的累积,烦恼慢慢变成不烦了。叹气声取代了烦恼。

是长大了,也是老了吧。

26年前、后。好快。

Pre-Chinese New Year Dinner

With the help of a few other colleagues, we organised a dinner before the company closes for the Chinese New Year holiday. It has become a tradition to have this dinner before the CNY, in Cantonese, we call it “Sau Gong Jau”.

This year, we decided to buy some gifts for each of the staff. So that everyone would get to have something to bring back home for CNY. We got Eu Yan Sang’s chicken essence and Tai Thong’s dried meat. Everybody was so surprised and happy to see the gift. LOL.

Since we have some Muslim friends, we went to Spring Garden Restaurant (Halal) in KLCC for the dinner. Mind you, I made the bookings 3 weeks ago in order to get a private room! Last year I called 2 weeks in advance and I couldn’t get a private room.

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Testing my handphone camera first. :D

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Spring Garden KLCC

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First thing of course would be Yee Sang.

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Braised shark’s fin soup with Bamboo pith, dried scallop and crab meat. This is not real shark’s fin of course. This is the best amongst all the 9 dishes.

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Steamed grouper with soy sauce. The fish was not fully cooked! Ish.

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Sauteed white prawns with Sichuan style. Very unique, not bad.

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My boss complained about the fish, and they gave us additional dish, complimentary. :D Don’t know what vegetable is this, but it is so juicy and crispy. :)

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Special fried rice. Dull and tasteless.

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Desserts – Boring.

There are another 3 dishes in between, I was too busy eating and forgot to take photos. Hahaha. When I took photos, my boss said “ish… again! Faster lah. You going to take photos of all of them?!” Kakakaka……

Out of the 9 dishes, the soup and the roasted chicken were the best. The rest of them are so-so only. There was this double-boiled sea coconut with white fungus dessert, it was so sweet that I stopped drinking it at the second sip. Eewwww……

The standard of the food has dropped so much. I wonder why.

 

Smile

I was still wondering, why does she laugh so much and so loud when it is not that funny at all. Then, I too start to care less. When I try not to let things bother me, I often find myself smiling or laughing it off. It finally dawned on me, that, why she laughs so much.

The best disguise, the easiest yet hardest disguise.

When I heard remarks that I do not like to hear, I now learn to respond it with a smile.

When someone told me a rumor or something which I could not prove its truthfulness, I pretend that I do not know about it and I laugh it off.

When my co-workers try to make it difficult for me, I do not find difficulty at all as I now compromise a lot.

However, there are times when I just couldn’t take it any more and I find myself giving out a sigh which is louder than a tiger’s roar. They would often ask me why, and I often reply with a smile and, “nothing”.

I could now disguise my moods well, at work. Someone told me today, “you look so cheerful recently! Something good must have been going on!” What she doesn’t know, I have troubles and problems surrounding me all the time and no one could help.

Anyway, I am glad that they couldn’t see. I am happy that they see me as a cheerful and happy person.

I am now having a rat race with my patience. I do not know how long I could fake up all the smiles. It is working, but it is also pretty tiring.

I too, am grateful to have some angels that could “sustain” my grumbles sometimes. They listen to my rants and they never fail to show support. The best part, they always give me that little mood-lifting treatment or jokes. You of all the people, should know who you are. :)

Why frown when it is easier to smile? :)